Breaking Free from Parental Guilt


Am I a bad parent?

Feeling guilty about not taking leave from work for your child’s sports day event? Or perhaps you feel guilty after an angry outburst when disciplining your child?

We’ve all been there. That feeling of being guilty for doing something or not doing something for your children. It gets worse when we compare our parenting style to others’ or even when you come across articles that tell you how to parent. There are so many reasons for parents to feel guilty when it comes to parenting. In this seminar we will cover 2 types of causes of guilt and how to overcome it: guilt from child disciplining and guilt of the working parent.

Discover the secrets behind creating a parenting lifestyle that is guilt-free. This seminar will help you to:

  • Discipline without feeling guilty
  • Balance the realities of work and life without the guilt
  • Renew commitment to a guilt-free parenting
*All ticket sales proceeds will go to Wakaf Ilmu


Disciplining is part and parcel of parenting. Parents discipline their child to correct behaviours or mistakes. But sometimes, parents feel a sense of guilt after disciplining their child. Why does it happen and how can it be avoided? In this session participants will learn ways to:

  • Managing anger when disciplining
  • Strategies to discipline positively
  • Preventing guilt when disciplining

Katy Harris
Behavioural Therapist, Family S.O.S.)

Katy Harris has lived in Singapore for 25 years and spent 15 of them as a Behavioural therapist. Before this she was a Montessori teacher, then an early year's teacher, a Special Educator and part of several parent support groups. Her two adopted children have special learning needs and provided much of her training in patience! She operates from 'Family-SOS' seeing children from ages 2-20. Outside of work she loves volunteering for the heritage board and the zoo and, after children, trees are her passion.


Choosing between a career and spending time with your child can be hard. About 4 in 10 working mums said that they don’t spend enough time with their children. According to another survey, dads feel guilty about being away at work too. Through this session, participants will be able to understand ways to:

  • Strike a balance between personal time and family time
  • Cope mentally and physically as working mums and dads

Madam Muzaiyanah Hamzah
Head, Social Development Policy Strategic Unit, Muis

Muzaiyanah Hamzah is a trained Social Worker with a Masters in Social Science (Social Work), NUS. Prior to her stint in Muis, her experience spans more than 20 years in the social service sector from working with families, conducting pre-marital workshops to marital counselling and also more recently in the last decade, working with vulnerable youths and their families. She was also a sought-after speaker for parenting seminars/workshops, appearing both in print, TV and radios and had served various committees. A genuine individual who never fails to connect with her audience as she brings honest realism & humour to her sharing and interactions - where she values every participant as experts who just need a safe space & gentle nudges on how they can be better. A mother of 4, who values positivity & felicity and lives by the mantra, “its ok not to be ok”.


As Muslims, faith becomes an integral part of your worldview as parents. We draw inspiration from the Prophet s.a.w and how he managed his household with mercy and kindness. More often than not, the feeling of guilt will creep in. How can we manage this negative feeling spiritually so as not to be beholden by it? In this session, participants will be able to:

  • Renew commitment as parents to bring up children in the best able way
  • Spiritually combat the feeling of guilt and negative thoughts from the Quran
  • Hear examples from the life of the Prophet on disciplining children with kindness and balancing family life

Ustaz Syed Mustafa Alsagoff
Principal Madrasah Alsagoff Al-Arabiah

Syed Mustafa Alsagoff has a very deep interest in the Islamic Education field in Singapore particularly and the educational world, in general. His experience and interest in the field dates back to late 80s as a student and as a full-time teacher since late 90s.

He holds a Diploma of Education from Edith Cowan University, Australia, and a Diploma in Departmental Management from the National Institute of Education (NIE), Singapore.

In the field of Syariah, he has a bachelor of Islamic Jurisprudence from Al-Azhar University, Cairo, Egypt. He also holds a certificate in the fatwa of Darul Ifta, Egypt.

He was a teacher and Head of Department, Syariah at Madrasah Aljunied Al-Islamiah for seven years (1999-2006). He also served the Islamic Religious Council of Singapore as an executive in the Madrasah Policy and Planning Strategic Unit from 2007 to 2009.

Syed Mustafa also actively teaches classes at several Islamic organizations such as PERGAS, PERDAUS, ALMAS and several mosques in Singapore.

He was also a Member of the Appeal Board, Hakam at Syariah Court, Members of Syariah financial adviser OCBC, PERGAS & ALMAS exec committee members and one of the writers for Friday sermons.

He is a Naib Kadi at ROMM and the current Principal at Alsagoff Arab School, Singapore.
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